In-person in DFW / Online in TX
build a healthy relationship with yourself and securely attach to others
As An Individual
You look normal but feel broken. The nagging feeling that you’re too much AND not enough at the same time is fracturing your sense of self little by little. You’re not sure how to identify your needs, find ways to relax, or figure out boundaries because guilt catches up to you when you’re not in overdrive. Shame was your first language growing up, and now betraying your own needs to keep the peace is how you maintain safety.
As A Couple
You feel angry all the time in your relationship and you’re not sure why. Mundane conversations seem to escalate into heated arguments out of nowhere and you’re exhausted by the resentful silence that follows. You're both drawn to the other person’s differences but they trigger your deepest insecurities at the same time. Your worst fear is looking at each and asking “when did we become like the people who hurt us?”
You don’t remember much about being a kid but you do recall there was a lot of fear - and you learned how to cover for it like an expert. You experienced the most praise when you were caretaking for your adult caregivers, and grew from being the “old soul” and “little self-starter” to an adult who poured themselves into a church community or intimate relationship, just to be blindsided by unexpected loss of or betrayal from your safe space. You know how to care for everyone BUT yourself, and you’re floundering.
You may relate to this in your relationship where you and your partner’s vastly different relational styles or devastating shared trauma keeps you stuck in an echo chamber of mutual hurt, fear, and confusion. All you want is to be vulnerable but it feels like such a risk steeped in mistrust and resentment.
You’re wired for connection but never learned how to access it securely.
The most impactful relationship you have is the one with yourself. I am passionate about supporting anxious, exhausted, and self-doubting adult survivors of religious abuse, relationship loss, and childhood neglect rewire their attachments with themselves. If you want to feel at peace with your memories, regain trust in your body’s instincts, and get to the root of automatic negative thoughts that keep you stuck, I am the therapist for you.
Your intimate relationship also deeply impacts your quality of life. I am equipped to help hurting couples process the pain of attachment style differences, recurring conflict, and shared trauma. If you’re done with walking on eggshells, tiptoeing around the tough questions to keep the peace, and feeling like you’re living with a roommate instead of a lover, you’re in the right place. My uniquely integrative skillset allows partners to rebuild a connection based on mutual respect, joyful curiosity, and shameless intimacy.
You’re Not A problem to be Fixed, You’re somebody to be experienced. And it’s in your dna to heal.
ere never taught how..
It's the highest privilege to help you become aware of your survival strategies, connect you back to your resilience, and equip you in rewiring relational patterns so you can live the life of your choosing. I am not an "everything" therapist: my time, energy, and resources are dedicated to becoming excellent at treating relational traumas in individuals and attachments wounds between couples in an evidence-based way that produces lasting change. 
If white knuckling and self-criticism was going to help you, it would have by now. Let’s try something new, together.
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Recover from spiritual trauma, homeschool abuse, and childhood neglect
Your experiences are not the kind that people talk about. In fact, you may wince just calling them trauma because it was normal to you at the time. But you don’t have to continue to wake up feeling guilty, live in fear of your memories, or wonder what relaxation feels like forever
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Survive Relational Loss
Society may not have words for grieving a person who is still alive, but the trauma of losing a partner through divorce, a church family through deconstruction, or a family member through alienation is REAL. Fortunately, so is your ability to rebuild a life of purpose, clarity, and peace in the wake of the unexpected
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Couples Therapy
A wholehearted respect for each other’s relational styles and where they come from is possible. Conflict that brings you closer together and strengthens your shared values is available. Deep trust and feelings of security in the aftermath of trauma is worth taking the risk to build
Picture your body feeling like an ally, you reactions being a conscious choice, and your emotions serving instead of ruling you...
In a digital age with endless amounts of information on mental health, you may have labeled parts of yourself as “wrong” or self- diagnosed your survival strategies as “pathological.” You may even know your attachment style already and see it as something to “get over.” But when was the last time you approached your symptoms with curiosity about the purpose they serve, not just the pain they inflict?
Therapy with me skips over cliches and seeks to explore the origin of your symptoms and what healing means to you. Instead of surface level chat or clinical jargon, we opt for curious exploration of the “why” behind the “what” that brings you into therapy. And rather than recycle the problems you know, we explore the strengths that allowed you to get through them.
A fellow survivor, I can relate with lived empathy to the issues I specialize in and am committed to genuine integrity in my story so I can help you explore yours. You will have the space to explore your day-to-day issues with a depth and clarity that you can take home with you outside of session. Every step of the way, you will be met with genuine curiosity, grounded presence, and gentle directness.
Therapy is an investment of your time, energy, and resources and I honor the bravery that it takes to reach out and explore your options. To make sure that this feels like a good fit for your personality and goals, I offer free 15 minute consultations where you can:
-Ask questions and learn more about what to expect in working with me.
-Discuss availability and schedule an intake session at a time that works for you.
-Learn how to prepare for your first session
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